“The truth is that we can learn to condition minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors.”
As I slowly poured the deep, rich, red velvety wine into the sparkling wine glass, I was dreaming of that first aroma bouquet to touch my nose and the soft, big, smooth taste wash across my tongue… I swirled the wine around in the glass before raising the glass up to my nose, then allowing my lips to press against the wine glass as I tipped my head back. I took in a long, slow drink of the nectar that was unfolding within my palette.
Absolute blissful, sensory, tasteful joy. I’m so worth it, and this incredible experience that lay before me.
Just hours before, I stood in the market with that glorious, dark bottle of deep red wine in my hand. I’m worth it. Am I worth it? Maybe I will regret spending some money on some nice wine once I get home, or on the way home, or when the credit card bill comes in, or as it sits on the counter waiting to be uncorked… Maybe I will convince myself that I’m worth it. I know it tastes fabulous; I’ve had it before when out dining with friends. I know I will enjoy it, but am I worth it?
Absolutely. I’m totally worth it. I’m worth the pleasure of honoring my desires and my self as a woman who is born to experience the birthright of knowing pleasure on a daily basis.
I sat back and observed how my mind was chatting myself up, trying to justify my worth of having this exquisite experience and blissful sensory joy with some fabulous wine. I indulge myself once in a while with life’s pleasures of a great glass of wine, a wonderful dish of thoughtfully prepared rich food, and on occasion that incredible trip. I practice self care and delight in knowing I’m taking care of myself and putting my feelings of joy and pleasure to work in my life on a daily basis. Good feels good and bad feels bad. I navigate my life through honoring my guiding north star of pleasure and it has served me well.
At times as women, we are taught, or we somehow learn in life, that we must justify ourselves. We self sacrifice ourselves for our families, our jobs, to abandon ourselves, or we must put others before us, or do what others say or think. If they think we are good, we are. If they think we are bad, we are. If they instilled in us that it’s too expensive (compared to what?), then it’s not worth it. Why?
Let me ask you, why would you do this? I have studied this and have seen so often women lacking self worth when it comes right down to this, and there is an all out epidemic of women not waking up to claim all that is theirs in terms of living a life with pleasure and self worth. The world needs up ladies, it needs us to wake up and live in our full potential as feminine women navigating our lives making choices that feel good and with pleasure. Things change when we make choices that involve our intuition and living from a place of pleasure.
Am I worth it? Absolutely. I’ve learned about pleasure and how important experiencing pleasure is to me, and that as long as I think I will feel good and am not harming anyone else, I’m so worth it. I know the taste of great foods and drink. I know the loving touch of human hands. I know the space of planning relaxing time with myself and my loved ones, my family and friends. I know how to get stuff done. I know that I will make choices to feel good about how I respond to others in life situations, not reacting and being negative, but being positive and consciously making thoughtful responses. I know the power of my words and I choose loving words to interact with people. I know that when something doesn’t feel good, I walk away. I’m worth way too much, and the empowerment of not engaging in something that doesn’t feel good. I know what guides me and I know where I’m going to honor pleasure in my life. If I don’t feel good about doing something, I don’t do it.
We are here as human beings to experience a pleasurable life, and all its glorious sensory and emotional experiences she gifts to us to enjoy. It starts with ourselves, and if we think we are worth it, we can claim it. The world needs us to do this, because out there in this big world, there are tens of millions of women who need us to help them to take a stand for themselves and their worth to start finding a way to live a better life.
I claim my divine self-worth to share in life’s wonderful offerings, in living in pleasure, and I need to bring this out to the world, after all, it’s my birthright. So I ask you, what will you do to claim your birthright of pleasure?