There is an African Proverb that says “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”. Love, love, love that!
Love going it alone. I’ve gone far and I’ve gone fast. I’ve done it really, really well. Fast forward (no pun intended here) to the one day, I woke up and realized, I’m just that, alone. Not lonely, but alone. Nothing wrong with that, but I have come to realize that to really get to the heights and depths that I need to get to next, to experience the feelings and things that I want and realized I need to, I need to go “together”.
This is when I get to really open my heart up and share more of who I am with those around me. It used to be scary. Excruciating actually. But it didn’t fully serve me, this “always going to alone and fast”. It’s still kind of scary.
I have grown over a long time, I’ve done a lot of personal development work and I love it. And have come to know that I can’t do it all alone. It’s wonderful, empowering and freeing to go it alone and accomplish things. But the wisdom I now have in knowing that to go far, I can call in my tribe, or go join in my tribe to experience love, joy, fun, success, connection, intimacy, laughter, ideas shared that grow into something magnificent! My tribe can be anyone from my family, my friends, co-workers, or my significant other ~ my partner. They are the ones we join in with and share yourself with, to allow yourself and let yourself be seen, and you support them.
To have fun with, to cry with, to share in joy and pain with. To have deep meaningful conversations with, share journey’s with, food and conversations with.
I’ve learned to ask for help, and it was hard, especially for someone like me who is used to lasering through what I want and what I need to accomplish. I’ve learned to open up, share, to connect, and to love. True partnership.
I’ve learned to allow myself to be seen, to connect with and collaborate with others, and you know what? It’s absolutely exhilarating! I love it. But it can also be challenging, because it involves someone else, or others, and without them, I couldn’t be feeling and growing to the levels that I need if I were going it alone.
It can still be hard at times, because I’m naturally an introvert by nature, which is very feeling, and I am very independently strong. However, I’ve learned to weave in my quiet and soulful nature with the important value I hold which is the connection with others, the joy, pleasure and love that I experience with others. Not to mention the wonderful support and growth given and received, is priceless. There is no way that I would only go far and fast, I am going far now, and going together.